Knowing how long the recovery from burnout will last is obviously the big question. Don’t take it lightly, unfortunately it takes time.
You need to accept to recover.
Having time is the most precious of all the riches in the world.SOCRATE
Almost 100% of people with burnout think they will recover quickly.
Which seems logical enough as the people concerned are as a rule very active and full of motivation when they work on their various projects.
Steeped in denial and frustration, the person struggles with himself, a struggle in which he burns his last reserves of energy. As long as he associates burnout with just being tired, as long as he thinks that things will soon get back to normal, the healing process is unfortunately lengthening!
Some will say 6 months, 12 months, 18 months… Others will say that it takes half of the period leading to burnout, still others speak of a duration equal to the time it took to get to that state of burnout.
One thing is certain, the convalescence period is long and it will depend on the depth of the state of exhaustion and the duration of exposure to stressors as well as on several factors:
– How long has the person been on this highway, much too fast for them?- How long has this chronic stress set in?
– When is the person able to accept this state of burn-out and put in place adapted responses to rest, to rebuild?
– Is the person able to get enough rest?
– Will he take the time to really rest or will he hurry and start all over again at the slightest boost of energy?
– Can he let go?
– Is the person able to accept this state of affairs without bearing any guilt?
– Is the person able to adopt changes in his life so as not to fall into the same pitfalls?
– Can he not resume his activity too quickly? Or what are the possibilities for doing so?
– If the person also has to resume an activity for economic reasons, the recovery will in fact take much longer.
Start from a blank page
The same causes produce the same effects.PAUL VALERY
The quote from Paul Valery is not quite complete here but this part is of particular interest to me.
Indeed, if once back on his feet, the person sets out again in the same way then he is bound to have a relapse.
Usually, when a person has suffered from burnout, he avoids reproducing the pattern that led to it because it is a brutal experience that turns life and family upside down. In addition, the recovery time is often very long, the person will be more inclined to take more care of themselves.
Yet this time can be very rich. It can be an opportunity to start from a blank page and write a new page in your life.
It often takes you through a phase of introspection: how did burnout come to my life? What were the determining factors? What actions to take so as not to reproduce them? What do I need the most? What are my values? What are my desires? etc.
It is not a question of simply “listening to oneself” but also of “accepting oneself”, of letting go and looking as objectively as possible at what is good and what is not or not good any more, of managing to leave, to abandon everything that has been harmful to our health. In short, to lighten up!